This week in my family relations
class we talked about gender roles and same sex attraction. I know this can be
a sensitive topic for a lot of people. This could be for many different reasons.
Maybe you have someone who you know personally who has struggled with same
gender attraction or even yourself. There is a lot of debate in today’s world
about every angle of the subject. My goal in this post is just to talk about what
was discussed in class and maybe share my views in a respectful manner.
To start off the week we started by
talking about gender roles and the differences between males and females. We
came up with characteristics or quality traits of boys and girls that maybe
contradict each other. The list for girls was; social, relational oriented (for
example, when driving or giving directions you pay attention to your
surroundings rather than street names or highway signs), communicative,
empathetic, cooperative, and nurturing. Did you know that girls have 5x more
connective tissue between verbal and emotional parts in the brain? I thought
that was super interesting. The list for boys was; aggressive, special oriented,
competitive, preside, provide, and protect. I know these lists seem kind of
sexist, and that is not the intention at all. I realize that boys and girls can
possess qualities in both of these lists.
Moving forward, do you think that
we raise boys differently than girls? Why do you think that is? In my
criminology class I read about how we raise girls with more compassion, and we
are more forgiving, like they are more delicate. I think we are harder on boys.
We teach them that being aggressive is part of being a boy and that is okay. I
think this quote is really good. It says
“We badly need to
raise our boys more like our girls.” Interpret the quote as you will. Another
quote that I like was “toxic masculinity is a source of a lot of our problems. “
We then moved the discussion forward
into same gender attraction. There are 3 terms that are commonly used. They are;
same gender attraction, homosexual, and gay. I know that this topic can be hard
to talk about but her is my opinion. It contradicts what was talked about in
class but I don’t think being gay is a choice. I know there are a lot of people
especially in the church that wish they didn’t feel the things that they felt and
that they could be attracted to women, be married and have a family, but they don’t
feel that way. To me, all I really want is for people to be happy. I just try to
imagine how I would feel if the tables were turned, if it was wrong to be
heterosexual and we were supposed to marry someone of our own sex. How many of
us could do it? Are you choosing to be heterosexual, or is that just how you
were born? Attracted to the opposite sex? It puts a whole new perspective on
trying to force the LGBTQ+ community to do what we want. I know that is how God
intended things to be, male and female married. That is the only way to have children.
Personally, I can’t justify taking about the rights for a person to be loved
and have love in their life, just because of my personal beliefs. Everybody
deserves that, whether you are gay or straight. At this point in time I don’t feel
like them living their gay lives are hurting me. I would rather them be in a
happy homosexual relationship than be miserable with a woman they love but aren’t
sexually attracted to. These are just my personal thoughts. What do you think?
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